Planting Seeds

April 9th, 2010 by Lenae

Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop – a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown (Matthew 13:8).

At the GEMS Ladies’ Tea that our club hosted for the widow ladies in our community, the girls and senior saints earned the Flash Back! 50th Anniversary Badge. During the intergenerational Bible Study portion of the badge we studied the Parable of the Four Soils (Matthew 13:1-23). We identified the seed as God’s Word, and then talked through some of the reasons that God’s Word does not grow within us: lack of character, worry, busyness, greed, lack of trust, shallow faith, and the deceitfulness of wealth. These things choke God’s Word out of our hearts!

Rae Jean, the craft counselor for the 3rd/4th grade girls, then read Help Others Grow. It’s filled with prayer challenges: Pray that God will use you to tell His story – to tell others the story of what He has done in your life and what He can do in theirs. Pray that God will clearly guide you to people whose lives He wants you to help or change or touch in some way. Pray that you will hear and respond to the Holy Spirit as He guides you. And pray that the Holy Spirit will prepare in advance the hearts of those you will reach and touch and help.

As she read, she got choked up. The Word of God had not been choked out of her life. She and the rest of the counselor team have received the seed that fell on good soil. They heard the word and understood it (Matthew 13:23). Instead, she got choked up as she thought about the people who planted seeds in her life and the seeds she has planted and will continue to plant in the lives of others.

Our badge work took a new path as ladies and girls identified the people who had planted seeds in their hearts. Their answers included moms and dads, grandparents, teachers, GEMS Counselors, and more.

Whether you have a green thumb or struggle to keep plastic plants looking good, you’ve been a gardener of the King during the 2009-2010 GEMS season. When you taught the girls about prayer during Bible Study, or how to use their creative talents during craft time, carpooled, provided snacks, or served in a host of other ways that benefited the girls and counselors, seeds were planted and watered.

Like Paul reminded the church in Corinth, although we’ve been about the spiritual gardening of planting and watering seeds, it’s God who makes the seed grow (1 Corinthians 3:6). So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow (1 Corinthians 3:7, TNIV).

Prayer Step: Pray that the seeds you planted this season take root and produce a harvest beyond your wildest dreams.

The seed once sown grows . . . of itself, from its own impulse and power of life . . . The self-inherent power of growth of the kingdom of God.
Rudolph Stier

You need only to be still

March 24th, 2010 by Amy

I’m a recovering perfectionist. To give you an idea of the exact scale of my malady: I cried the first time I got a B+ in college. We’re not talking a few tears, either. We’re talking I called my mom and sobbed because, as far as I could tell, the world was ending. The conversation went something like this:

Me: Gasp, sob, sniffle This is going to RUIN my final grade!
Mom: You know, sweetie, a B+ isn’t a bad grade, and it was just one test.
Me: Sniffle, sob But, gasp for air, sob what if I want gasp for air to sniffle go to sob grad school sniffle someday?
Mom: You want to go to grad school? Well, you know – it’s still your first semester; you’ve got lots of time! Did I mention a B+ isn’t a bad grade? And it was just one test!
Me: Gasp You sob just sob don’t gasp for air understand! Cue my meltdown into uncontrollable weeping.

Let’s just say it was a mildly horrific day for both of us – bless my mom’s heart.

So, anyway, as a recovering perfectionist, I’m learning to integrate the word messy into my vocabulary more and more. I’m systematic; I’m organized. I don’t like messy. But life is messy. And the more you dive in and really invest in people and relationships and emotions, the messier it can get.

And, whether it’s a broken relationship in my own life or gazing into the eyes of a neglected orphan in Africa, I’ve had lots of messy, B+ moments – moments when I’m starring down the barrel of something truly terrible or shocking, something far from perfect, on the brink of a meltdown, wondering how I could possibly make things right. And my instinct is to push back – to struggle and resist and fight to fix things.

And so I trudge through piles of pain and deceit up to my chin. I elbow my way through death and disease and jealousy and pride and hunger and hate – fighting for justice, fighting for order, and sometimes simply fighting to stay standing.

And it’s in those moments that I return to Exodus 14. I can sympathize with the Israelites. Things weren’t going the way they had planned. Pharaoh’s army was pursuing them. Things seemed hopeless. They wanted to go back to Egypt. They craved structure. They craved order.

Their solution? Cry about it to Moses. And, with a hint of maternal affection, Moses tells it like it is: “The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still” (Exodus 14:14).

Stop whining, he implored. Nothing you can do is going to make this better. You can’t make this right. But just watch. Be still. God’s already got it covered; let Him do the fighting. You need only to be still.

You need only to be still. I can do that. I can be still.

And it’s in the stillness that God gives His next command. It’s out of the stillness that God sets His saving acts into motion. I don’t need to fight, because I’ll never win on my own accord. But, in the midst of the messiness, I can be still. And I can listen. And then I can follow His lead. My effort alone will never be enough; I’ll never be perfect. But I follow the One who is – and He fights for me and makes a way. So I choose to be still. I choose to focus on Him and then watch the messiness and imperfection melt away.

Pray & Remember

March 9th, 2010 by Lenae

Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray (James 5:13).

The first time I heard the statement, “There are no atheists in foxholes,” was from my sixth grade teacher, Mr. De Groot. He would capture our attention as he shared his warfare experiences and how even the biggest and most callous guys in their troop would weep and fall to their knees the night before extreme combat. Mr. De Groot was small in stature, but big in prayer and they’d come to his bunk to pray.

Seeking God’s help in times of war is nothing new. In 2 Chronicles 20 when Jehoshaphat received the report that a vast army of Moabites and Ammonites with some of the Meunites were marching toward him to make war, he was alarmed, proclaimed a fast for all Judah, and sought God in prayer.

Are troubles marching your way? Learn from Jehoshaphat.

Pray. When Jehoshaphat heard that a vast army was heading his way, he didn’t organize his militia, meet with his military advisors, or strategize war tactics. This was his first response: Alarmed, Jehoshaphat resolved to inquire of the LORD, and he proclaimed a fast for all Judah (v. 3). What’s your immediate response to troubling news?

Remember who God is. Jehoshaphat stood in front of the people of Judah and prayed, “O LORD, God of our fathers, are you not the God who is in heaven? You rule over all the kingdoms of the nations. Power and might are in your hand and no one can withstand you” (v. 6). What name of God corresponds with your deepest trouble and need? If you feel weak, remember that He’s your Strength (Psalm 59:17), if you feel distraught, remember that He’s your Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6), and if you feel betrayed, remember that He’s your Defender (Proverbs 23:11).

Remember what God did in the past. “O our God, did you not drive out the inhabitants of this land before your people Israel and give it forever to the descendants of Abraham your friend” (v. 7)? How has God been faithful to you in the past?

Remember what God said He would do in the future. “They have lived in it and have built in it a sanctuary for your Name, saying, ‘If calamity comes upon us, whether the sword of judgment, or plague or famine, we will stand in your presence before this temple that bears your Name and will cry out to you in our distress, and you will hear us and save us’” (vs. 8-9). What did God promise to do for you in the future?

Remember God’s power. “For we have no power to face this vast army that is attacking us. We do not know what to do, but our eyes are upon you” (v. 12). What’s bigger, your problem or God’s power? See 2 Corinthians 12:9!

Prayer Step: Are you in a worrisome valley with more trouble marching your way? Look to God, pray, and remember.

When you face a battle, spend much time in His Word and in prayer, for then He will give you that needed word of encouragement.
Warren W. Wiersbe

Step away from the red pen

February 17th, 2010 by Amy

I love editing. I love taking something that is good (or, in some cases, not so good), and making it better. I love taking out elements that distract and adding elements that enhance. I love untangling piles of words and ideas and rearranging them into fluid thoughts.

But sometimes I get into such a rhythm when I edit that it’s like I’m on autopilot – instinctively untwisting words and shuffling ideas around a page.

It was in this trance-like state that I found myself editing the Bible. Not on purpose, mind you. The verse was woven into the lesson I was working on, and I had added a comma and changed two words before I realized the sentence was directly from Scripture. I set my red pen down and rubbed my eyes. Really, Amy? Did you just do that?

How often do I do that in life, though? Take God’s Word and add a claim here, cut a command there, rearrange some thoughts and – voila – a customized gospel that better fits my desires. We’ve all done it, and it usually looks something like this:

  • Don’t gossip. I’m not gossiping, I’m venting.
  • Forgive. I did forgive her; I’m just reiterating my point so she knows why I was upset.
  • Don’t lie. It’s not lying; it’s just part of the job – anything to make a sale.
  • Love. I am loving, but she was walking all over me and I had to defend myself.
  • Don’t steal. It’s not stealing. My friend bought the CD; I’m just making a copy.
  • Be patient. I am patient, but that waitress was slow and we were running late.

Sometimes our edits are calculated – we rearrange God’s truth and project our own agenda onto Him to justify our actions and responses. Sometimes they are more mindless – a numbed acceptance that treats culture’s voice as synonyms with God’s. Both are wrong. Both are sin.

So what if we really accepted God’s Word as truth and expected to receive radical freedom from radically obeying Him? What if, instead of relying on our own revisions, we acknowledged God’s sovereignty and clung to His Word alone? What would it look like if we all set down our red pens and simply admired the work of the true Author – the One who has written our names on His hands and asks us to follow Him?

Prayer Lesson from a Wedding

February 9th, 2010 by Lenae

On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding (John 2:1-3).

Until this morning’s quiet time, my single correlation with the wedding that took place at Cana was that it was the location of Jesus’ first miracle: He turned water into wine. What joy to discover that it’s also a place packed with lessons on prayer. Before you go on, please get your Bible or log on to biblegateway.com and read John 2:1-11.

Put yourself in the shoes of the servants who were the first to know that they ran out of wine for the wedding guests. I don’t know about you, but I’d be in the kitchen pacing and panicking. Now what? Are the local wineries still open? Does anyone have some sparkling grape juice available? Then the lessons on prayer begin . . .

1. When you’ve run out of what you need, go to Jesus. When Mary discovered the wine was gone, she went to Jesus, knowing He could change the situation (John 2:3). When love runs out of your marriage, go to Jesus. When joy runs out of your heart, peace runs out of your family, or patience runs out of your parenting, take the need to Jesus. He makes change possible!

2. Pray that He opens your eyes to the resources nearest you. Nearby stood six stone water jars (John 2:6). When needs are deep we can miss the obvious or think that every solution is an arm’s length or more away. Pray that He opens your eyes so you can clearly see His plans, and don’t be surprised if the answer is nearby.

3. Pray that you readily obey Jesus no matter what His command. His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you” (Luke 2:5). Was this whatever- command a stretch for the servants? They needed stone jars filled with wine, not water! Their thoughts are not recorded, only their wholehearted obedience. They filled them [the stone jars] to the brim (John 2:7). For Jesus to do miracles we must readily cooperate with full, up-to-the-brim obedience (John 2:7)!

4. Pray for people to see Jesus’ glory. This, the first of his miraculous signs, Jesus performed at Cana in Galilee. He thus revealed his glory, and his disciples put their faith in him (John 2:11). Do you have loved ones who closed their hearts to Jesus? Pray that He opens their eyes to see His glory! It was being eyewitnesses to Jesus’ glory that initiated the disciples’ faith.

Prayer Step: Make one of these prayer lessons your heart’s cry for yourself or a friend today.

Work as if everything depended on you and pray as if everything depended on God.
D.L. Moody

Notice

February 2nd, 2010 by Jan

Sitting next to her, I noticed how quiet and unable or unwilling to make eye contact with others she was. I carefully reached over and patted her hand and asked, “You doin’ ok tonight?”

“Oh yes. I’m fine,” she said in a voice barely audible.

I tried not to stare, but I was certain something was wrong. I studied her out of the corner of my eye. Yes, there was something very different about my friend. What was it? Then I noticed it. Heavy make-up had been applied to the top of her hand attempting to cover a large and ugly bruise that ran up her hand and continued up her arm. How did that get there? I wondered.

When she suddenly turned to look at me, she must have seen the look of concern on my face. Slowly, barely above a whisper she confided, “He did it… last night… but he didn’t mean to do it.”

Memories flooded my mind. I had heard that same line over and over again in the past. Always they came from a woman who had been beaten by her husband – a woman who was a victim of domestic violence.

Before coming to GEMS, one of my previous jobs had been working for a special task force on domestic violence. The messages spoken by the hundreds of women I interviewed at that time were always the same – “He didn’t mean to do it.” “He promises to change.” And, “He says he really loves me, and He’s sorry.”

Sadly, that was never the case.

Battering is the single largest cause of injury to women—more than auto accidents, muggings, and rapes combined. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists reports that 3 to 4 million women are beaten in their homes every year. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, approximately 2,000 women are murdered every year by an intimate partner.

I looked into her eyes and said slowly and meaningfully, “I’d like to help. Could we talk sometime?”

“We can talk, but I’m fine, really.”

I pressed on knowing above all else that my friend indeed needed help even though her words communicated otherwise. “How about Thursday evening after work or Friday for lunch? Would either time work for you?”

“I could do lunch on Friday.”

“Great,” I said, meaning it.

We picked a spot to meet, gave each other hugs, and then got up to leave. I watched my friend walk away thinking that my meeting with her on Friday would require some preparation on my part. I needed a refresher course on: statistics including the lack of success in changing abusive behaviors, what to say to victims in denial that refuse to believe their husbands or boyfriends will likely not change, contact information for local support groups, and, equally important, contact information for domestic violence shelters.

Domestic violence has been called the silent epidemic. Victims rarely reach out for help and too often their pain, fear, and sadness go unnoticed even by friends and family members until it is too late. Their very lives could well be in our hands. This encounter was a wake-up call to me to pay more attention to others, to notice the little and the big things. Indeed it may be that someone’s very life may depend on my ability to particularize or notice them and respond with Christ’s love and compassion.

Now what about you? Will you determine to be a noticer?

Is your life worth mimicking?

January 21st, 2010 by Amy

When someone I admire gave up TV for a year, it got me thinking. I’ve never really watched much TV, but I decided to follow his lead. Now I am halfway through a 12-month stint sans any sitcoms, reality shows, or even nightly newscasts. Admiration led to intrigue and intrigue eventually led to action – action that has enriched my life.

That’s a pretty typical progression for me when I encounter someone I respect. I take note of their words and actions and sometimes even try to imitate them.

When it comes to screen time, it would have been easy to choose someone else to mimic. In fact, if I wanted to be on par with a typical American in any given year, I could sit on my couch for 67 days straight and watch TV around the clock (the average Canadian’s annual TV consumption is just a few days shy of that mark).

I’m horrible with mental math, but even I can quickly compute the number of years many North Americans spend in front of a TV. (On second thought, who wants to be average?)

Here’s the thing: habits don’t form themselves. And most of us have people that we look up to, respect, and possibly even emulate. As a counselor – as a mentor of girls – you have a group of young women who readily place you into that category. They look up to you and are taking note of your words and actions.

So, what kind of an example are you setting? Are your attitudes and habits life-enriching? Jesus used His life on earth to set a perfect example for us to follow. Is He your litmus test for everything you say and do? How closely are you following Him?

Girls are bombarded with endless messages from culture about how they should look, how they should act, what they should buy, and who they should be. Is your life a living example that there is another way – a better way? Is your life a living example of the fact that culture’s messages are drastically different than God’s? Are you living a life worth mimicking?

Praying in Color

January 8th, 2010 by Lenae

At our last GEMS Counselors’ Meeting we prayed in color for each girl in our club. It was a special time of intentional, focused prayer for each girl.

We’ve now posted it at club to remind the girls of our prayers. It’s our hope that it also serves as an inspiring reminder for them to pray in color, too!

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Pray in Color for Your Club:

1. Draw a design that has a specified space for each girl’s name.

2. Write the girls’ names within the design.

3. Gather your colors, markers, and counselors.

4. Ask each counselor to pray as she colors the spaces that contain the names of the girls in her small group. It’ll be tempting to chit-chat about other things, but guard these precious minutes as prayer time for the girls.

God’s love isn’t always comfortable

December 15th, 2009 by Amy

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10

Sometimes, meditating on God’s Word looks more like an awkward hug than an intimate embrace with my Father – my feet get tangled, my arms go the wrong way, and in a hasty attempt to salvage the gesture I reposition myself and end up turning my head at the worst possible moment. It’s uncomfortable.

For three days I subconsciously plotted ways to avoid such an encounter with Psalm 51:10. I read it. Good start. I underlined it in my Bible. Piety point. I even prayed through it a few times. Done deal.

Done deal. Right. Except that I walked away feeling like I’d offered God a fist bump or a friendly slap on the back instead of, well, anything worthwhile.

So I decided to try it again. I was determined to completely open my heart to God, and I did my best to position myself for a clean embrace.

But Psalm 51:10 is intense, and it wasn’t long before I started to feel like God was holding me a little too close – like perhaps His grasp might actually crush me. I fidgeted. I started to squirm. I even tried to back away. But it was too late. It was like He had reached deep inside and grabbed my heart. His grip was firm, and the longer I sat there the tighter it got.

Open and utterly vulnerable, I watched as God held my heart in His hands. It looked like a heavy sponge – soaked through with sin. I winced as He started to squeeze. Have you been dishonest at all this week? Drip. Self-seeking or smug? Drip, drip. Any jealousy? Drip, drip, drip. How about greed?

The drips were flowing into a steady stream now, producing an unpleasant cadence as they fell. But we were just getting started. God twisted my heart tighter and tighter in His hands – carefully wringing out every inch.

How’s your thought life these days? Drip. Been wasting any time? Drip, drip. Taken anything for granted in the past week? Been unforgiving? Said anything mean? Been angry at all? Holding onto any bitterness? Gossiped about anyone? How’s your attitude? Are you loving people who seem unlovable? Have you denied Me? Drip, drip, drip.

Eventually, the flow slowed back down to a trickle and then stopped, but the brittle remains of my heart threatened to break into dust and blow away. I sat there like a parched wasteland: barren and deserted. I felt empty, dry, and completely drained.

But then it hit me: My heart had been wrung out and the sting was painful and real, but He hadn’t let go. The Creator of the Universe still had my heart in His hands. My sins had flowed out, but He hadn’t bothered to collect them. He had let each one wash away. And, He continued to delicately cradle what was left of my heart. I wasn’t alone, and He wasn’t done. God did not intend to stop with simply discarding the dirty water, He was ready to renew my spirit and fill me back up.

I still felt raw, so I just sat there for awhile. But now I was sitting in awe. In awe of a God who loves me enough to wring out my dirty, polluted heart and then patiently sit on the floor with me while I catch my breath. In awe of a God who offers to, in exchange for the murky water I insist on sloshing around in, fill me up with His grace and mercy and love. In awe of a God who doesn’t seem to mind the awkwardness I present each time I stumble into His arms. And, in awe of a God who refuses to let go no matter how much I might try to twist free of His grasp.

God’s love isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it feels like a rib-crushing bear hug that leaves me breathless and sore. But I’m realizing more and more that undeniable warmth always seeps through the pain, illuminating a bigger plan, a better way, and promising to refine me and provide me with an incomprehensible sense of peace. It’s not always comfortable, but I’ll take it because it’s always good.

Recognizing His Voice

December 9th, 2009 by Lenae

Admittedly, it started after I turned forty. When I’m in large groups I have an increasingly difficult time hearing. But no matter how loud the crowd, there’s a voice that I can always discern . . . my hubby’s. It’s not because he’s blaring or boisterous, I just recognize his voice. Even when he’s across the room and I can’t physically hear his words, I can interpret his body language. I’ve been accused of reading his mind and have charged him with reading mine, too.

That doesn’t just happen because you’re married. It’s attributed to time spent talking and listening, and seeking to know and love one another more and more.

Many Christians are finding it increasingly difficult to hear God’s voice. The culture has moved from whispering subliminal messages to cranking the volume on its lies. And in all the noise some of God’s children struggle to hear and recognize God’s voice.

Jesus said, “The man who enters by the gate is the shepherd of his sheep. The watchman opens the gate for him, and the sheep listen to his voice. He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice” (John 10:2-4).

Knowing His voice doesn’t just happen because you’re a Christian. It’s attributed to time spent talking and listening, and seeking to know and love our Savior more and more!

That was the Apostle Paul’s prayer for the Philippians. And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ – to the glory and praise of God (Philippians 1:9-11).

When we seek to know Jesus better, we’re able to discern and recognize the voice of Truth in the midst of a persuasive world that rejects Him as Lord. For it’s in knowing His voice that we can follow wherever the Good Shepherd leads – whether quiet waters, the valley of the shadow of death, or a table prepared in the presence of our enemies. When we follow His voice, goodness and love will follow us all the days of our lives, and we will dwell in His house forever (Psalm 23).

Prayer Step: How well do you recognize Jesus’ voice? Spend time in prayer and His Word to know Him more and more.

The value of prayer is not that He will hear us…but that we will finally hear Him.
William McGi